Your first step to healing is coming clean about your problem with pornography and masturbation. What can you do this week to come clean?
Here’s some actions you can take:
Take a risk and tell someone what’s going on with you. Be concrete about what you are sharing. You don’t have to be graphic but you should mention pornography and masturbation. Share the frequency and don’t minimize or try to hide. Who could you tell?
- Your parents or a sibling
Your goal is be honest with yourself and others. Even if they don’t have the best response. This is practice for you in learning to be honest on a ongoing basis.
If you have been working at dealing with pornography and masturbation for a while, take this week to get current with some people in your life. Bring them up to date with how your doing. You may have not acted out this week but is there anything else you need to get current with.
- Edging (Google searches, cruising on social media, tv watching that is unsafe, etc.)
- Sexualizing People
Online Resources where you can check in an get support:
- Reddit pornfree
- Reddit nofap
- Reddit NoFapChristians
- If Reddit is not safe for you, join http://www.nofap.org/
“Anything worth doing is worth doing badly.”
A final thought about perfectionism. We sometimes have a thought that if I can’t do this perfectly, it’s not worth it. But getting free from porn and porn addiction is worth doing even if we have to look messy.