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Life is not all about defensive strategies around porn addiction. In this episode, I share about 5 benefits from going pornfree AKA the Good Stuff.
Now defensive strategies are important in overcoming porn and we need as much help as we can get. We need good structures in our life to support our goals. I love this proverb:
A man without self-control is like a city broken into and left without walls. (Proverbs 25:28 ESV)
But if all we have is a set of rules, then we are not really living. I shared a story about my friend John who is nearing 15 years of sobriety this year.
He was sharing once to a group about everything he does to keep himself on the right track and from stumbling and someone asked him if he enjoyed his life or had any fun. He said that he did (after we all laughed.) Then on the dry erase board he drew a tiny little curve around one of the corners. then he said that the our culture would have us believe that all we can enjoy if we choose to live this way, I will get is whatever fits in that tiny little corner. We miss out on everything else (the rest of the board.) In reality, it’s the other way around. As we live in our addiction we are cut off from the rest of life and live in the little corner. When we put the proper boundary on porn and our addictions, we get access to rest of life (the big part of the board.)
The boundary lines have fallen for me in pleasant places; surely I have a delightful inheritance.” Psalm 16:6 (NIV)
As we create a good structure and set up boundary lines it starts to keep in the good inheritance. We are able to experience good things and retain them.
5 Benefits of Living Pornfree (AKA The Good Stuff)
- Free to live without shame
- Same on the inside as on the outside (people know the real me)
- Deeper relationships (with men and women)
- Able to Help Others
- Leadership
“We are all in the process of becoming. We have already moved from what we were to what we are, and we are now moving toward what we shall be. The perturbing thought is not that we are becoming, but what we are becoming; not that we are moving; but toward what we are moving. We are becoming what we love. Loving wrong objects is fatal… It is only as we love right objects that we become right.”
— A.W. Tozer, from the chapter “We Are Becoming What We Love” from God Tells the Man Who Cares
It’s easy to spend a lot of energy thinking about moving away from porn or fap (masturbation) and forget what we are moving towards. What are you moving towards? You are not stuck. You are moving. We are becoming what we love. Set your sites on what is right.
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Matt
