340 – 90% Of Your Relapses Are Predictable
Most relapses are predictable. So why are so often surprised by them? On this episode, Matt shares an episode from his Coffee with the Dobber series for contributors to Porn Free Radio. This Summer Get in REV Group (link) This is perfect time to jump in. Work with a group of like-minded men on the […]
339 – Are You Still In the Porn Bubble?
Men use porn because they like the effect produced by it. The elusive sensation changes our state while we are using it. It provides a timely escape from our present reality. And even though we have taken steps to stop using porn we often are still are looking for the escape. I call this the […]
338 – I’m not a bad person getting good, I’m a sick person getting well (a PFR Listener Story)
On this episode, Matt shares a PFR listener story from Aaron C. who got hope from Porn Free Radio and took action by joining a 12-step fellowship. This Summer Get in REV Group (link) This is perfect time to jump in. Work with a group of like-minded men on the journey to be porn free […]
337 – My 12 Provocations Pt. 2 with Vern Tompke
In the second of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as we complete this list of 12 provocations designed to challenge your recovery thinking. Work with Matt Dobschuetz As Your Coach I have some spots open this summer in during the day for one-on-one coaching. Powerful coaching has helped me get […]
336 – My 12 Provocations Pt. 1 with Vern Tompke
My book, Porn Free: Becoming the Type of Man Who Does Not Look At Porn, is known for its provocative statement, “Porn is not the problem for us. It’s the solution.” In the first of two episodes, Coach Vern Tompke from Finding Traction joins me, as I share 12 more provocations aimed at challenging your […]
335 – PFR 10th Anniversary Show
Join Matt and Sam Dobschuetz as they read listener letters celebrating 10 years of Porn Free Radio. Take hope and take action! This Spring Get in REV Group (link) This is perfect time to jump in. Work with a group of like-minded men on the journey to be porn free this year. Select an open […]
334 – Whole vs. Broken
Do you see yourself as broken or an addict? Then this episode is for you. Over the last 10 years, I have had a shift in my thinking; I have moved away from diagnosing and pathologizing porn behaviors (disease model.) And I moved towards a choice/ownership model. I invite the guys I work with to […]
333 – Honesty vs. Hiding
Before recovery, I lived a divided life. I hid anything I found unacceptable from my friends and family including my problematic porn use. On the surface, I presented a “nice guy” version of myself to be liked and accepted. It was exhausting and painfully lonely. In recovery, my why is “to be the same on […]
332 – Fact vs. Fear
We’ve all heard the phrase “Fact vs. Fiction.” But a friend of mine said it should be “Fact vs. Fear.” It’s fear that often leads us to our escapism and avoidance with porn. “There are more things … likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more often in imagination than […]
331 – Calm vs. Stress
Is stress based on our perception or is it objective? That was question we discussed in a recent REV group. The stressful situations guys described had one surprising thing in common. And it might change the way you look at stress. On this episode, we break down stress and examine what helps us return to […]
